Thrifty Words 100 #79: Anniversary — We count the hours, days, weeks, months, and years — striking them off with jumbo-size permanent markers. Ex after ex after ex, a ritualistic pattern to where? What makes one day in one year more worthy of celebration? A wedding? A birthday? Well, yeah, but what about the first time…

A common swinger opinion that is not okay — As a bisexual woman in the Lifestyle, I am at a great advantage. Although I come with a husband attached, and can’t quite be called a “unicorn,” my straight husband and I are the epitome of a swinging “dream team.” But, if my husband and I were BOTH bisexual we…

Owning your sexy can be a game changer — Flashing lights nearly blinded me as I raised my hand to try and see the body movements the photographer was modeling for me. Her back was arched into some kind of ungodly position and the look upon her face reminded me of the same one I made with my feet…

Playing close to home is more convenient, but is it smart? — So many couples that swing have their own way of doing things. We are all varied in the way in which we find playmates — if we prefer long-term dating or quick one-offs, and any number of elements that are involved in the process. …

Saying goodbye happens in the Lifestyle, too — You’ve done it! The elusive 4-way match has been found, formed and fornication has occurred. The fourth “F” is friendship, of course. Yet, sometimes days, weeks and even months go by without word from your new couple. Or, even worse, you log into that secret messaging app and there is…

For the first time in a long time, I have found love with another female — As a bisexual woman, I often crave the touch of another woman. I sometimes find myself daydreaming about the last time I sniffed a beautiful woman’s hair, spooned with her, or just had a deep connection with one that was more than just a friend. It’d only happened on one…

We’ve noticed many couples aren’t jumping at the chance to swap anymore, or is it just us? — Not too long ago, my husband and I made the decision to completely get out of the hotwife lifestyle, and solely focus on the swinging scene. We were super excited to focus entirely on couples. Having been in the LS for many years, this renewed adventure we were about to…

The older crowd of gentlemen seem to have all the right moves — I’ve always had a thing for older men. I remember being a freshman in high school and feeling myself blush as I walked by a group of senior boys who all smiled at me as I made my way through the hall. I was pretty sure they were all checking…