That one time we hooked up with two new couples and a unicorn

When my husband and I entered the world of swinging, I had no preconceived notions or plans to hook up with more than one couple at a time. We had read all of the books, listened to quite a few swinger podcasts, and talked to vanilla friends of ours that swung.

However, after swapping with a few couples, we found ourselves somewhat bored and restless. While we enjoyed the friendship, we wanted something more. We had been chatting with two new to us couples about possibly meeting up. Both of these couples were seasoned and knew the swinging world well…


Simple tips to begin your hotwife experience.

In a world of unique kinks and satisfying fetishes, one hidden sexual subculture reigns among the top. Jumping on the dark side of Twitter, scantily clad women can be seen wearing tight panties with the words, “My husband likes to watch” scribbled across their backsides. This is the world of hotwifing. If you are not familiar with the term, Dictionary.com explains it best:

“A hotwife is a married woman who has sexual relationships outside of her marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband, who himself doesn’t have affairs.”

In many cases, the husband seeks out men to…


Not all swinger sex fits the idea you have in your mind

I’ve been a swinger for the better part of 10 years now. During that time, I’ve seen and done many things I never thought I would. Some of these things include but are not limited to orgies, sex parties, swinger hotel parties, and lifestyle resorts. In the world of swinging, I think it’s fair to say that I’m pretty knowledgeable.

Yet, time and time again when someone finds out that my husband and I swing, we get asked the strangest and most off-putting questions about our sex life. …


Learning to do something I love from the man I love

My husband loves eating pussy.

Like, he really enjoys it. In my experience, most men seem to, but obviously, there are always a few outliers.

When we started to have intercourse with others outside our marriage, I quickly realized that I was bisexual. While it was something that I’d always wondered about, the first time I went down on another woman solidified it.

The smell, the taste of a woman is so different than a man. They are softer in their most intimate of places. The gentle folds of her labia, the sweet yet musky smell of her vagina, was…


How I learned to deal with my gag reflex and you can, too

Of all the intimate acts of sex I can share with a man, giving a blow job was not always my favorite. For me and many other women and men, it goes way back to childhood and having a super-strong gag reflex.

The basic medical definition of a gag reflex is, “the pharyngeal reflex or laryngeal spasm, is a contraction of the back of the throat triggered by an object touching the roof of your mouth, the back of your tongue, the area around your tonsils, or the back of your throat.” (Live Science)

Basically, when a dick hits the…


How to let down an LS couple that you just aren’t that into.

Swinging can open up new possibilities within your own marriage and allow you to make some very dear friends. However, the road to a 4-way match is not always a smooth ride. In fact, you and your spouse will encounter a lot of toads before you find couples that are just the right fit. While some couples might not be your jam, that doesn’t mean you have to be a dick about a lack of attraction.

So, what do you do when you encounter another couple that you just aren’t into? Actually, there are a lot of things you can…


An Erotic Poem

You know how it works,
this burning deep inside,
that wants nothing more.

Lips make their way down the front of my neck,
sampling the salty sweat and aroma of pheromones.

Hands reach from down below,
touching and squeezing until they reach them.

His head moves lower and lower,
with eager anticipation I squirm about like a child on Christmas morning.

First, a flick and then a longer lick,
sending lightning bolts straight to my groin.

Moans escape me now — gentle at first,
then deep and long with him reciprocating on my breast.

Teeth brush gently…


The dos and don’t of quality photographs on LS dating sites.

The saying is that “a picture is worth a thousand words,” is never more important than in an online dating profile. Take that theory and double it when attempting to plow through the hundreds of profiles on all of the major lifestyle dating sites. When seeking playmates the first thing we all do is look at the pictures attached to the profile, and in my experience, it’s not always good.

The art of a good picture for your swinger dating profile boils down to many things. There is a fine line between artsy and weird, boring and over-the-top and sexy…


Sleeping with other couples made our sex life together…better

My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Before that, we were together since we were in high school. We’ve spent more than half of our lives together as a couple. During most of that time, we only had sex with each other. That is until we started swinging five years into our marriage.

A very common catalyst for many couples that start swinging, is to improve their sex life. Admittedly, this was what sparked our interest in entering the lifestyle. It wasn’t a decision we took lightly or rushed. We did the research, talked to vanilla friends…


And the positions that correspond with them

The most common place most couples have sex is within the confines of their own home. Whether it’s the bed, the sofa or the shower, there is nothing quite like connecting with someone special in the place you feel most at ease.

Yet, where is the fun in that? Do you ever find yourself craving the rush of possibly getting caught? Or maybe you just want to spice some stuff up in your otherwise vanilla sex life? Fear not weary traveler! …

Keeva Black

🇨🇦 Writer. Mom. Living ENM, Swinging & Hotwife lifestyle with my soul mate. Editor: https://medium.com/modern-swinginghttp://ko-fi.com/keevablack

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